Instead of a dream, it’s a nightmare. You both have conflicting personalities. You are a neat freak and they are a walking disaster. You’re a free spirit and they are Nazi’s incarnate. You’re a creative artist and they are a stuck up b–.
Trust me, the last thing you want is a game of “I’ll get you for this”. A game like that escalates quickly, and it may end badly for you. You might win, but it’s a bet where you have more to lose with very little to gain. The worst part is, unlike casino games, it is not fun to play.
So, here are some ways to deal with a difficult roommate.
An Early Truce
There are a lot of advice columns that would tell you to discuss points of interests calmly like nice rational beings. Well, if every human being in the world can do this, then our history would not have been a bloody one.
If intelligent charismatic political leaders can’t do it, two teenagers will not likely be able to do it. The reality is there are just some people that will not compromise. But it will not hurt to try.
A Trade
After spending a few weeks in a dorm, you will meet someone in the same boat as you. Propose a roommate trade. It can be done with or without permission of the dorm manager.
It is in their best interest to keep the peace and have you guys settle it among yourselves. This is always the best option. By the way, if you do report a bad roommate to dorm managers, they will tell you to be an adult and suck it up.
File A Formal Request
Keep in mind that roommates are not your soul mates. You can file a formal request FOR NEXT SEMESTER to be in another room with someone else. Write a good justification why you wish to move to another room (or dorm).
Notice that I wrote, “with someone else.”. Do not file a request without a destination. Dorm managers will see it as a random complaint/whining (and they get a lot) and it will be ignored. The worse case scenario is you get transferred to a different room with a more intolerable person.
Leave And let Leave
A majority of freshmen join fraternities and sororities. Large established Greek named organizations have their own campus dorms. New members or Neophytes will/can transfer there.
Check to see if this is an option for you, or see if your roommate plans to join one and leave.
An honest live and let live policy is always the best course of action. Besides, you’ll be encountering this for the rest of your life with terrible workmates, bosses, and in-laws. It is a good chance to learn how to deal with it. On the other hand, going ballistic is a one-way ticket to becoming a Facebook celebrity – and not in a good way.
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